By Nita Huff Satterfield
As we come to the close of 2017 and begin to welcome another new year, one Fort Campbell wife is preparing to be a mother.
Mom-to-be Jamie Kilroy and her husband, Patrick, will welcome their first child on Jan. 9, 2018. Jamie and Pat (as she calls him) are both 29 years old and will be married five years on Dec. 22.
In this round of Moments with Moms, we’re talking to Jamie about her feelings and thoughts on becoming a mother, how she expects their lives to change and what they have planned for their new baby boy.
How did you meet Pat?
We met our senior year in high school and have dated on and off ever since.
Why did it take so long for you two to get together permanently?
We went to different colleges. Pat joined the Army and, after basics, went to Korea. I moved to Texas to teach. Finally we ended up together here; me teaching English in Clarksville and Pat being stationed at Fort Campbell as a staff sergeant.
You waited five more years to have your first child; is there a reason you want to share?
Yes, we both really like to travel. We have traveled a lot together, even before we were married, and we wanted to make sure that we were ready to settle down some and have a child.
Who is most excited about the arrival of the baby?
We are both excited and nervous about the same. We are so unsure what to expect. I have an edge on Pat on being excited though because I’m excited about not being pregnant anymore!
What does being a mom mean to you?
Being a mom is a huge responsibility that I don’t take lightly. I feel it is my responsibility to make sure our child is loved, feels safe and loves God. I feel it is my job as a mom to help my child be their own person and make this world a better place under God’s timing.
What are you expecting your life to be like?
We already have three dogs so our life will be even crazier! Dogs aside, there will be a lot more joy! I expect things will be chaotic for awhile, but that’s not necessarily a bad thing. Things will be difficult but exciting, and I am very excited to be a mom. I’m looking forward to those first moments with my husband and our child for the first time.
What changes are you expecting?
The biggest change will be that we are not just taking care of ourselves or each other anymore; this little one comes first. Pat and I have always been best friends and our marriage is a priority, so I’m wondering what we need to do to keep our relationship strong.
Do you expect your husband to change?
He knows there will be challenges, but he is excited about the changes. I don’t feel he needs to change because he is so good about knowing what I need. Pat is military and, therefore, is gone a lot, so when he’s home, we are pretty much homebodies. What we do is focused on the family.
How involved do you think Pat will be?
I think he will be very involved with the baby. He is nervous but very excited to be a dad. He will be a great dad.
Will he change diapers?
Bottle or breastfeeding?
I am going to do both. I know the advantages for the baby, but I also want Pat to be able to feed.
Do you plan to go back to work after your leave of absence or are you going to become a full-time mom?
I have not made this decision. A lot of people have told me that after the first two weeks, I will know if I was meant to be a stay-at-home mom or if I needed to go back to work. I am taking the full 12 weeks allowed by FMLA (the family medical leave act), and I hope I will be comfortable with my decision at that time.
Are you scared or nervous about labor and delivery?
Definitely. I am worried about the pain. I try not to let my thoughts go to that time of my life.
Where are you having your baby?
At Blanchfield Army Community Hospital on Fort Campbell. I have had a really good experience there. The doctors have been great and are really nice to me.
Have you and Pat taken labor and delivery classes at Blanchfield Army Hospital or parenting classes at the hospital?
No, not yet. I think at (our next) doctor’s visit, he will talk to us about how we want to deliver the baby. Maybe we should ask him about labor and delivery classes as well as parenting classes.
What do you and Pat agree on as the meaning of being parents?
We both have similar feelings on this. We feel we are to protect our child and to raise him to be a responsible adult. We are to teach and bring him up to be a good person who loves God.
What do you think the hardest part of being a parent will be?
Letting my child make the mistakes they need to make so that they can become the person God wants them to be.
What do you think you will miss most from your private time?
Being able to relax whenever I want, especially relaxing on weekends! Not having my own individual time will be a huge change.
What are you looking forward to the most?
The day our baby is born, and Pat and I are looking at our child for the first time knowing he is ours. Knowing that he is a gift from God and we are sharing this together.
Do you have a due date for your little one?
Yes, Jan. 9, 2018.
Do you know the sex of your child and are you willing to share with our readers?
Yes, we are having a little boy.
Does he have a name yet?
No, we have not chosen his name at this time, but we like the name Colin.